The Wisdom of Marriage

The Wisdom of Marriage:

1- Marriage is a healthy environment in which the family maintains its cohesiveness and reciprocal love. It also helps maintain chastity and guards one from committing the Prohibited.

2- Marriage is the best means of reproduction and multiplication, and preserving the family lineage

3- Marriage is the best means of fulfilling sexual needs free from related diseases.



4- Marriage fulfills the parental and maternal senses in man through having children.

5- Marriage helps maintain the sense of security, self contentment, and chastity for both husband and wife.

* Nikah, or marriage is recommended for him who is desirous of it, and is not feared to commit fornication. Or her wise, marriage is a must for a person who fears committing fornication.

* It is recommended to marry a woman who is religious, virgin, fertile, and beautiful.

* It is praiseworthy for a man to see the woman whom he intends to marry when she is accompanied by members of her family. She too has the right of looking at him for the same purpose.

* If it is not possible for the proposing person to see her, he may send a trustworthy woman to see her for him, who would describe her to him.

* It is unlawful for a man to make a proposal to a woman when another Muslim has already made a proposal to her before he declines.

* It is unlawful to make obvious proposal to a divorced woman, or a widow who is in her iddah (1). It is permissible however, to hint about marriage to such a woman saying, for instance, "I would like to marry a woman like you." And she may respond by saying: "No woman would reject you", and the like.

* It is permissible to make direct or indirect proposal to a woman in her iddah of an irrevocable divorce.

* It is unlawful to make direct or indirect proposal to a woman in her iddah of a revocable divorce

* It is recommended to consummate a marriage contract on Friday evening because there is a time on that day when the du'a would be responded to. It is also an act of tie Sunnah to perform the function in the Masjid if possible. There is no harm, however, if a marriage contract is officiated on any day, any time, or place, and it would be valid.

* It is recommended to recite the Khutbah of the Prophet, peace be upon him, for the occasion:

خطبة العاقد (إن الحمد لله نحمده ونستعينه ونستغفر ونتوب إليه، ونعوذ بالله من شرور أنفسنا وسيئات أعمالنا، من يهده الله فلا مضل له، ومن يضلل فلا هادي له، وأشهد أن لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له، وأشهد أن محمد عبده ورسوله)

All praise belong to Allah Whom we praise, and Whose aid we implore. We seek His forgiveness

and guidance, and we take refuge in Allah from our own evils and from our sin full acts' He whom

Allah guides aright none can lead astray; and whom He leads astray none can guide aright.

I testify that there is no true god except Allah alone, He has no partner. I testify that

Muhammad is the slave of Allah, and His Messenger. May Allah's blessings be upon him,

and upon his household, his companions and those who follow them with piety, until the Day of

Requital.

and to recite:

﴿ يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُم مِّن نَّفْسٍ وَاحِدَةٍ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالًا كَثِيرًا وَنِسَاءً ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَالْأَرْحَامَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيبًا ﴾

O Mankind! Fear your.Rubb Who has created you from one man and from him He created his mate,

and multiplied from the two of them many men and women. And fear Allah, by Whom you

demand (one of another) your rights, and do not sever your ties of relation (by unkind behavior),

for Allah is watching over you.

and:

﴿ يَاأَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ حَقَّ تُقَاتِهِ وَلَا تَمُوتُنَّ إِلَّا وَأَنْتُمْ مُسْلِمُونَ ﴾

O you who believe! Fear Allah as He should be feared, and (make sure) you die only as Muslims.

and:

﴿ يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَقُولُوا قَوْلًا سَدِيدًا(*) يُصْلِحْ لَكُمْ أَعْمَالَكُمْ وَيَغْفِرْ لَكُمْ ذُنُوبَكُمْ ۗ وَمَن يُطِعِ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ فَقَدْ فَازَ فَوْزًا عَظِيمًا ﴾

O you who believe! Fear Allah and speak the truth. He will render your deeds aright, and

forgive your sins. He who obeys Allah and His Messenger would indeed achieve great success.

He would add too:

Allah has commanded marriage, and forbids fornication. He says:

وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ ۚ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ

And marry the spouse less among you, and your slaves and the female slave that are righteous.

Thereafter, the marriage contract would then be officiated.