Real Beauty Marriage in Islam

Over the years, as a couple, you might have lost the sparkle but let me remind you, beautiful people, that you have an emotional duty towards your spouse...

8 Things to Strengthen the Husband-Wife Relationship. According to the Quran, the purpose of marriage is to attain sukun (tranquility and peace), which can never be achieved through impulsive sexual fulfillment unless it is accompanied by mutual love, affection, caring, and sharing, which are all part and parcel of a fulfilling and productive marriage relationship. Islam, as we know it holistically from the sources, is a balanced way of looking at things.

[QUALITIES CONDUCIVE  TO A HAPPY CONJUGAL LIFE] Not a close relative. The eighth quality is that she should not be a close relative, as that would lessen desire. The Prophet* said, “Don't marry close relatives for then the child is born scrawny”; 59  that is to say, weak; such is the weakening effect it [marrying close rela­tives] has on desire. For desire is excited by the deep emotions which result from sight and touch; emotions are strengthened by whatever is unfamiliar and new. On the other hand, what is familiar and seen continuously renders the faculties incapable of fully appreciating it [desire], being affected by it, or becoming aroused through it. These are the qualities desired in women.

[QUALITIES CONDUCIVE  TO A HAPPY CONJUGAL LIFE] [Childbearing] The fifth quality is that the woman be able to bear children. Should she be known to be barren, then one should avoid mar­rying her. The Prophet* said, “Marry the loving child-bearer”; 53  if she has no husband and her affairs are not known, the decision should be based on her health and her youth for, given these two qualities, she will most likely be capable of bearing children.

[QUALITIES CONDUCIVE  TO A HAPPY CONJUGAL LIFE] [Beauty] The third, beauty of face, is desired because through it fortification is attained. For [a man's] natural disposition is generally not contented with an ugly woman, [even] when good character and physical beauty are often inseparable.

[QUALITIES CONDUCIVE  TO A HAPPY CONJUGAL LIFE] [Good Character] Good character is the second quality. It is an important requisite in the search for emptying the heart” and in the pur­suit of favorable surroundings for religion. For if she is vicious, ill-tongued, ill-mannered, and ungrateful, more harm than good will come from her. Toleration of a woman's tongue would try the saints. An Arab said, “Do not marry one of the following six types of women:

[QUALITIES CONDUCIVE  TO A HAPPY CONJUGAL LIFE] There are eight qualities which render a conjugal life happy and which must be sought in the woman in order to assure the perpetuity of the marriage: piety , good character , beauty , a small dowry , ability to bear children , virginity , [good] lineage , and she should not be a close relative .

Wedding Day In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. All Praise is to Allah. The first wedding night should be a special moment for newlyweds. It should be romantic and intimate. The wedding is a special thing and the night of the wedding must be special too. It is the night where two people embark upon life in a whole new world with its own unique qualities and experiences. The bride and groom may have lived in different worlds before that night and have now come to the state of getting closer to each other and to sharing the same life.

Two Suitors Seeking to Marry the Same Girl The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)disapproved of two persons competing with one another to secure marriage with the same girl. This is because such a situation is likely to develop bitter enmity between two Muslim brothers.

Temporary prohibitions are those which arise only on account of certain special circumstances in which the parties are placed. If the circumstances change, the prohibition also disappears. They are as follows:

Prohibited Marriage Partners Under the Shari'ah, marriages between men and women standing in a certain relationship to one another are prohibited. These prohibited degrees are either of a permanent nature or a temporary. The permanently prohibited degrees of marriage are laid down in

The Free Consent of the Parties The Quran [4:21] refers to marriage as a mithaq, i.e. a solemn covenant or agreement between husband and wife, and enjoins that it be put down in writing. Since no agreement can be reached between the parties unless they give their consent to it, marriage can be contracted only with the free consent of the two parties. 

Ijbar: A Safety Valve The consent of both the man and the women is an essential element of marriage, and the Quran gives women a substantial role in choosing their own life partners. It lays down: "Do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner."[Noble Quran 2:232]

When is the marriage forbidden or not desirable in Islam? Marriage is forbidden (Haram) to a man, according to the Hanafi school, if he does not possess the means to maintain his wife and children or if he suffers from an illness, serious enough to affect his wife and progeny.

Marriage is compulsory Careful consideration of the Quranic injunctions and the traditions of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) clearly show that marriage is compulsory (wajib) for a man who has the means to easily pay the Mahr (dowry) and to support a wife and children, and is healthy,

Marriage Conditions 1- Designating the two spouses. 2- The consent of the tlvo spouses. None of them should be forced to give his/her consent. Both the virgin and the non-virgin, must first give their permission before giving them in marriage. The virgin's permission is her silence when asked, while the non-virgin's permission is her verbal consent. The insane and the intellectually incompetent may be made to marry without their consent.

The Wisdom of Marriage: 1- Marriage is a healthy environment in which the family maintains its cohesiveness and reciprocal love. It also helps maintain chastity and guards one from committing the Prohibited. 2- Marriage is the best means of reproduction and multiplication, and preserving the family lineage 3- Marriage is the best means of fulfilling sexual needs free from related diseases.

Allah has created men and women as company for one another, and so that they can procreate and live in peace and tranquility according to the commandments of Allah and the directions of His Messenger. The Quran says: "And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect."[Noble Quran 30:21] "And Allah has made for you your mates of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best."[Noble Quran 16:72]

Marriage in Islam “And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in peace and tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in that are signs for those who reflect” (Quran 30:21). “O Humans revere your Guardian Lord, Who created you from a single person created of like nature its mate, and from this scattered (like seeds) countless men and women. Reverence Allah through Whom you claim your mutual rights” (Quran 4:1).