Real Beauty Marriage in Islam

Over the years, as a couple, you might have lost the sparkle but let me remind you, beautiful people, that you have an emotional duty towards your spouse...

what are a wife's rights on her husband according the Quran and Sunnah? or what are a husbands duties to his wife and vice-versa? Praise be to Allah. Islam has enjoined upon the husband duties towards his wife, and vice versa, and among these duties are some which are shared by both husband and wife.  We will mention – by the help of Allaah – some of the texts of the Qur’aan and Sunnah which have to do with the duties of the spouses towards one another, quoting also from the commentaries and views of the scholars.

Assalam alaikum (Peace be upon you), Dear Readers, How to be a good husband in Islam is something that every Muslim man should learn before entering into a wedlock. For a long time now, I have been wondering why so much has been written about a woman being an “Ideal wife in Islam” as against writing about a man being an “Ideal Husband in Islam”. Allah says “And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable” [Al-Baqarah 2:228]”? Aren’t men included in this command? If there are things that wife needs to do for husband, then there are things that husband also has to do for wife. The rulings on rights of Husband and wife on each other are very clear in Islam, which is not found in any other religion or its scriptures. Although awareness is needed to educate women regarding their duties to their husband, it is equally important to stress the need to...

Your Life is a journey You’re on a journey. The journey is life. The destination is Paradise or Hell. The path you take on your journey will determine your destination. The length of your journey is not fixed; it will vary for each individual with some arriving at their destination in their youth whereas other will reach old age before they arrive. Yet one thing for certain is that everyone WILL arrive at their destination.

8 Things to Strengthen the Husband-Wife Relationship. According to the Quran, the purpose of marriage is to attain sukun (tranquility and peace), which can never be achieved through impulsive sexual fulfillment unless it is accompanied by mutual love, affection, caring, and sharing, which are all part and parcel of a fulfilling and productive marriage relationship. Islam, as we know it holistically from the sources, is a balanced way of looking at things.

Advice For My Sister In Islam Be proud of your religion and the religion of your ancestors. Be a good example for your sons and daughters and sincere in your belonging to this mighty nation. Know that honor is an honor to all wise people, and that adultery is dishonorable to all nations, even if some called it freedom. Know that adultery is also done with the eyes by seeing, with the ears by listening, and with the mouth by kissing, as was mentioned in a Hadith related by Ima m Muslim.

Nice Story telling us what the wife do with her husband who is going to divorce and getting him change his mind completely. When I got home that night my wife served dinner. I held her hand and said, "I've got something to tell you." She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking about divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, "Why?"

[QUALITIES CONDUCIVE  TO A HAPPY CONJUGAL LIFE] Not a close relative. The eighth quality is that she should not be a close relative, as that would lessen desire. The Prophet* said, “Don't marry close relatives for then the child is born scrawny”; 59  that is to say, weak; such is the weakening effect it [marrying close rela­tives] has on desire. For desire is excited by the deep emotions which result from sight and touch; emotions are strengthened by whatever is unfamiliar and new. On the other hand, what is familiar and seen continuously renders the faculties incapable of fully appreciating it [desire], being affected by it, or becoming aroused through it. These are the qualities desired in women.

[QUALITIES CONDUCIVE  TO A HAPPY CONJUGAL LIFE] [Good Lineage] The seventh quality is that the wife should be of good lineage, that is to say, she should come from a religious and righteous background, because she will bring up her daughters and sons. If she is not well bred, she will not be able to raise her children well. For that reason the Prophet* said, “Beware of the green dung  (khadra' al-diman). ”56   It was asked, “What is the green dung?” He said, “The beautiful woman with an evil origin.” 57  The Prophet* said, “Exercise care in choosing [wives] for your sperm, for a hereditary quality is wont to return.”“

[QUALITIES CONDUCIVE  TO A HAPPY CONJUGAL LIFE] [Virginity] The sixth quality is that she should be a virgin. The Prophet* said to Jabir, who had married an unwed deflowered woman, “Would that she were a virgin so you could daily with her and she with you.” 54  Virginity has three advantages: (a) First, the virgin will love the husband and feel close to him, which will favorably influence their conjugal attachment. The Prophet* said, “Marry the loving (woman)”; for the natural disposition is to be attached to the first mate with whom one has had intimate relations. On the other hand, a woman who has experienced men and life may not be satisfied with some of the qualities that differ from those she is accustomed to, and may, therefore, loathe the husband. (b) Second, it engenders a greater measure of his love for her, as it is a man's nature to be somewhat repelled by a woman who has been touched by another husband; that would contra­dict [a man's] nature rega...

[QUALITIES CONDUCIVE  TO A HAPPY CONJUGAL LIFE] [Childbearing] The fifth quality is that the woman be able to bear children. Should she be known to be barren, then one should avoid mar­rying her. The Prophet* said, “Marry the loving child-bearer”; 53  if she has no husband and her affairs are not known, the decision should be based on her health and her youth for, given these two qualities, she will most likely be capable of bearing children.

[QUALITIES CONDUCIVE  TO A HAPPY CONJUGAL LIFE] [Dowry] The fourth quality is that her dowry should be small. The Messenger* of God declared that “The best women are those whose faces are the most beautiful and whose dowries are the smallest.” 38  He enjoined against excessiveness in dowries.” The Messenger* of God married one of his wives for a dowry of ten dirhams 40  and household furnishings that consisted of a hand mill, a jug, a pillow made of skin stuffed with palm fibers,” and a stone ('iliyy); 42  in the case of another, he feasted with two measures 43  of barley;” and for another, with two measures of dates and two of mush  (sawiq). 45

[QUALITIES CONDUCIVE  TO A HAPPY CONJUGAL LIFE] [Beauty] The third, beauty of face, is desired because through it fortification is attained. For [a man's] natural disposition is generally not contented with an ugly woman, [even] when good character and physical beauty are often inseparable.

[QUALITIES CONDUCIVE  TO A HAPPY CONJUGAL LIFE] [Good Character] Good character is the second quality. It is an important requisite in the search for emptying the heart” and in the pur­suit of favorable surroundings for religion. For if she is vicious, ill-tongued, ill-mannered, and ungrateful, more harm than good will come from her. Toleration of a woman's tongue would try the saints. An Arab said, “Do not marry one of the following six types of women:

[QUALITIES CONDUCIVE  TO A HAPPY CONJUGAL LIFE] [Piety] That she should be virtuous and religious is the most fundamental requisite, and to that end [special] care must be taken. For, if her religious principles are too weak to give her the strength to be virtuous and constant, 19 she will humiliate her husband, disgrace him among people, trouble his heart with jealousy, and thereby render his life miserable. Should he succumb to passion and jealousy, he would remain in trial and tribulation. Should he, on the other hand, follow the path of permissiveness, he would be apathetic toward his religion and honor and would be guilty of lacking zeal and pride. Also, if she is beautiful but corrupt,

[QUALITIES CONDUCIVE  TO A HAPPY CONJUGAL LIFE] There are eight qualities which render a conjugal life happy and which must be sought in the woman in order to assure the perpetuity of the marriage: piety , good character , beauty , a small dowry , ability to bear children , virginity , [good] lineage , and she should not be a close relative .

[Legal Disabilities to or Restrictions on Marriage] The first type: The woman taken as a lawful wife should be free from that which would prohibit her marriage. There are nineteen restrictions.' 1. That she be married to another. 2. That she be in a legally prescribed waiting period [which precedes marriage] to another [person], regardless of whether that period is due to [the husband's] death, to divorce, to suspi­cion [of adultery], or is being cleared from suspicion aroused by [her] owner [that is, being a concubine-slave of the owner].

Concerning the etiquette of marriage:  The engagement should be arranged with a guardian, not during the legally prescribed waiting period  ('iddah)  of the woman, but rather after its termination if the woman is observing such a period, and provided that she is not already engaged to another, since an engagement while another is pending is forbidden.' 

Stipulations  of the Marriage Contract As for the marriage contract  ('aqd),  it has four conditions that facilitate its establishment and dissolution: 1. Permission of the guardian; if not, then [that of] the ruler.' 2. Consent of the woman if she is a nonvirgin adult  (thayyib bough)  or a virgin adult given away in marriage by someone other than her father or grandfather.

Wedding Day In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. All Praise is to Allah. The first wedding night should be a special moment for newlyweds. It should be romantic and intimate. The wedding is a special thing and the night of the wedding must be special too. It is the night where two people embark upon life in a whole new world with its own unique qualities and experiences. The bride and groom may have lived in different worlds before that night and have now come to the state of getting closer to each other and to sharing the same life.